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Sep 26, 2025
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Here’s a post from Derek Thompson I found puzzling:

post from Derek Thompson: "~me and my female friends think the male loneliness crisis is pretty funny~ is fine group-chat fodder, but it's a weird thing to keep in a lefty essay that's ostensibly trying to figure out how and why men are fleeing the left" screenshot of quote: "Among my friends, the sort of women J.D. Vance likes to mock as miserable losers, the male loneliness crisis became a bitter joke. We discussed possible cures: becoming a Deadhead, getting into cycling, poker nights. We made approving comments when we saw straight guys doing things together, like the time a group of dads showed up at someone’s Pilates class. There were movies and TV shows about the problems of contemporary manhood, some concerned (Adolescence), some satirical (Friendship). Mark Zuckerberg, whose male-to-male transition included bulking up, putting on an XL T-shirt and a gold chain, and becoming a fan of the Ultimate Fighting Championship, told Joe Rogan that the corporate world is ‘culturally neutered’ and needs more ‘masculine energy’. He has proposed AI friends as one solution."

If you read the quote and then read the characterization of the quote, you may also be puzzled. It’s not very inflammatory, is it? She’s not like, my friends and I have a groupchat where we make fun of lonely men, but rather, “the male loneliness crisis,” the talking point. But if you read the article—which is a review by Emily Witt in the London Review of Books—and then come back to this post, you are going to be even more puzzled. One thing that’s clear when you read it is that the people who talk to men like they are pieces of shit who should kill themselves if they have any aims other than pure self-aggrandization, are… male “influencers” like Andrew Tate. The very title of Witt’s review (“Do you feel like a failure?”) references this story about Tate:

Jamie Tahsin and Matt Shea’s Clown World follows the authors through the making of two documentaries, The Dangerous Rise of Andrew Tate and Andrew Tate: The Man Who Groomed the World…

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